Some Good Stuff

Things are going pretty well here in the south. How weird is that? We live in "the south". McSweety's latest rotation - Pediatric Surgery - has had its ups and downs. There have been some terrible, yucky weeks and some, "ok, we can handle this" weeks. Apparently, it's been reported that the next rotation shouldn't be that bad, but these days, I just take that to mean, it will be different. But I would like to take a moment and high light this crazy fact: we're half way done with intern year!? Crazy?! I can't believe we've been here seven months and that my super hubby is almost through this bottom of the barrel year. Woo-hoo. Yay, us! I feel encouraged knowing we've made it to this point and I am still excited to see my man at the end of every shift (I started with "day" but that's not always our reality) and we're still being intentional about communicating, spending time together and acknowledging each others needs...all through the grace of God, the solid rock upon which we stand.

And more good news - a church. Finally, a church. I believe we have committed to a church and that's a good thing. It took a lot longer than I had hoped... six months and some 10 + churches later... but I think we're at a place where we're ready to dive in. Of course, it's one of the first few we tried... so a few months and a few released expectations later, here we are! I admit that I still have a little bit of trepidation (will we fit in, will we find community, will the boys like it, will they find little buddies...) but we've always been more of a play the game than a stand on the sidelines kind of family, so it's time for us to get in the game!

I'm planning on joining the "Mom's Group" on Tuesday mornings as a starting point. Would you pray for me? For courage and joy - to show up, intentionally, to be me and to be open to relationships? Thank you! I think it will be a good thing, but again, I admit to having silly fears.

And speaking of silly... can I please tell you that the most ridiculous thing happened last Friday? Schools were cancelled all across Nashville for this:

Oh, man. I drove to work in blizzards and didn't blink an eye. What a odd world we are living in here in the south. I actually made my boys go outside and play (it was cold!) because I don't want them growing up thinking wimpy snow days are the real deal. I know snow days, and this was not one of them.

And of course, a shot of my loves. I just adore these boys! I find them delicious, silly and oh, so wonderful...I can't get enough. This Mama is very blessed.

A year gone by...

Warning... this post may randomly ramble. I've been wanting to take some time to just consider this last year - to really contemplate God's goodness and provision and to see the way He has blessed us. And I'm thinking my thoughts will be all over the place. And I'm lingering here while my buddies both sleep (wow?!) so we'll see how long that lasts... you've been warned.

It's amazing to think that last January we were cooped up in the 70's style apartment with a new little love - just 3 weeks old - and with our future hanging precariously before us. McSweety went on a string of interviews.  I survived days that stretched on with my rambunctious two-year old and a newborn. Thankfully, I had the help and presence of many sweet friends. Thank you.

Fast forward two months (I'm not neglecting those sweet two months in my thoughts... I had a new baby to adore after all) and it's decision time. It's still crazy to think back to those conversations - what will we rank, where will we really go, what does God have planned for us? Amazingly, in a moment of peace that could have only been the product of the Holy Spirit, Reid and I were solid in our choices. I could see the light in his eyes when he talked about Vanderbilt. There was no way I would be the one to put that light out. We were in this together and sometimes together means losing a little bit of yourself for the one you love. From the start, I was game for the adventure, wherever it took us, but the thought of saying goodbye to our life in Utah created an ache that I simply had to ignore - I think our desires don't always line up with the best plans. And so, with total peace, we submitted a list. A list?! That determined our next step. Crazy. And then we waited.

And it felt like waiting, waiting, waiting, as waiting often does... and then it was March 17th. I remember the drive to "Match Day". It was just Reid and I - the boys were riding with my parents who were with us for support - and we were jittery and wondering. And then we were waiting in a big room, listening to some speech that no one wanted to hear, and then finally, it was time. Reid got the envelope and brought it back and handed it to me. Yes, I was shaking. Before I even opened it, I knew: Vanderbilt. I knew without a doubt that my amazing husband had gotten his first choice. And the words on the page confirmed what we already knew. And there were tears - mostly because it was over...the waiting, the wondering. And there was joy and pride and excitement. And there was heartache. We would have to say goodbye.

With resolve, I committed to spending time with friends that I love - as opposed to doing what I was at times tempted to do - to hide, to fade away quietly, to not let my aching heart be exposed to the love that I would leave behind. But without regret (and as much as a rather new mom of two with a inconsistently scheduled hubby can do) we played, and laughed, we went out - the zoo, kindermusik, playdates, parks... and two and a half months flew by.

And then we packed. Ugh. For some reason, I thought I kind of liked moving. Officially, I do not. We sold our house two Aprils ago, moved once, moved again (some of you remember-thanks for helping friends who made a little bit of an unwise choice) and then within 9 months, moved again. Yuck. And we had such help! Amazing. Seriously, amazing. Friends packed boxes, moved furniture, packed more, brought us food, packed more (and we hardly lost anything in the whole process - maybe on another date I'll recount the story of the missing crib bolts and the move-in ready bag of sheets and towels I had prepared)... and the apartment became more and more empty and my heart became more and more tender.

And to add to the heart-ache, here was my sweet son who had just turned three, adoring his best little buds. He loved (and loves still) his little friends...those 3 sweet friends. And you know who you are. The ache I feel from missing your sweet little ones - it has brought me to tears. For a time, I thought about how fun it would be to watch them grow, to talk about starting school, to make choices together about what to do next to help shepherd their little hearts, to know you were in the same boat, that you got me because you were there too. Ugh. He still says to me, "Mama, I miss my Utah friends. Why don't we go to Utah and see them?" Ugh. Such. Heart. Ache. And I know we're still in that boat together, but with distance comes different choices and issues and changes. And that's kind of sucky.

And our new love - the Duke. To just share a glimpse of his life with such sweet friends... and to know I was just getting a glimpse of all these other little ones... oh, the heart ache.

And so... we packed up life and on a Sunday morning, we drove away.

I didn't cry when we left. I thought I would. But I think it was a little too unreal for my tears. It felt like we'd be back after one of our trips to Colorado. And yet, we have not crossed back over that state line, we have not gone back. We have had to go forward.

Then one day, a few weeks later, we got on an airplane, with our stuff in transit somewhere below us, and we flew "home". Now that was weird. And the next day I closed on a house I had never even seen! And then, without friends, with the help of my parents and a few hired hands, we moved in. How weird. And six and a half months have passed and here we are.

This has not been easy. Actually, let me say that a little more truthfully: this has been hard. In fact, I'm going to say that it has been one of the hardest things I have ever done. I just didn't realize how much I loved our life in Utah. I knew I loved our life, but to be removed from it, for it to be suddenly gone... there's a clarity in being able to look in on a situation from which you've been removed.

I fully believe this is exactly where God wants us to be. I have a peace in that. We prayed and He showed up, like He always does. And yet, this is still hard.

I've said it before, but I think I've mostly been surprised at the loneliness. I didn't realize how hard it would be to get connected! I don't work - a huge blessing- but that takes away a whole arena for meeting people; we searched high and low for a church to attend (and after 6 months I THINK we've finally found where we want to be); the mom's I've met though Vanderbilt...some are great, some are so southern (not a bad thing, but I immediately feel like I don't fit), some have their friends and aren't looking for more, and there's the reality that many of them will be gone in May...anyway.  But, there are blessings and bits of hope - an amazing neighbor, a friend with a teaching background who is now "mom", a friend with two little boys (who sadly fall into the category of "gone in May"), a friend to walk with... bits of hope.  And I know good friends take time.  But I'll be totally honest: I don't want it to take time. I want it just to happen right now. I don't want to work at it. I want friends who know me and get me and know my life.

But I know... it takes time. God is with us in this. He has blessed us richly: two wonderful boys, a residency at Vanderbilt, a husband who loves what he's doing even when it's hard, a beautiful home, grass growing in the backyard!, a beautiful place to live with parks and trees and new things to discover and explore, friends in the making, a church, a husband that I just so happen to adore... God, thank you. You are constant and good.

And so... what's next? As an end to my rambling (they're still sleeping!), I'm stating my desires, prayers for this next year:

- To be present...with God, my husband, my children. I want to embrace this experience and this place in our lives. I want to see my husband when he's home. I want to adore my boys daily and with intention. I want to stop and look at their faces, really look, every day. I want to be the one who dictates my to-do list... to not let it dictate me. Mostly, I want to be present in my love of and relationship with the Lord. To show up and know Him first.  My "to-do's" for this: get up and do that quiet time (which I will honestly say I LOVE), to stop and listen to McSweety (not just talk!) and to make those date nights (when we get them) a priority, to make it part of my daily routine to get down and let go and just be with my boys, to set up my to-do list in a way that allows me to dictate when and how I get it done.

-To be adventurous... we've done a pretty good job of getting out and getting to know Nashville. And it's a goal to maintain this sense of adventure as we enter the cold winter of Tennessee (no snow yet). It's good inspiration to get out of the house and do something!

- To be me... I talked with my hubby about this last week and may come back to it for the next post, but I feel like I've lost a little bit of me in this whole process. I don't really get to just be an adult-hardly ever. And that's fine in some ways because it's just a phase, but I also know that I can't lose me. I can't just be in the "mom-box" all the time. I have other boxes that I like to climb into... athlete, artist, friend, volunteer, and even a drinking-a-cup-of-coffee-quietly-and-all-by-myself box. And I think I need to not feel guilty about these desires. God did make me this way! And I want to love and honor Him with my life - and I don't think that happens fully by not being who he made me to be.  I don't quite know how to make this one happen. So I shall ponder it.

I'm going to stop now. If you've read this, you must love me (or maybe you just wondered if I had a point - like continuing to watch a really bad movie, waiting for that moment of redemption).

I have such hope for this New Year. And I know God has been so faithful this past year. Sometimes I forget - when I'm sad and alone in those quiet moments, when I'm inconsistent and human - but ultimately, I remember. He is hope. And so, my prayer for me, my family, for you... is Romans 15:13, "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit."

The Duke turns ONE!

Happy Birthday to our littlest love! Duke-man turned ONE last week - which I keep capitalizing because I can't believe it. And this post is me officially coming to terms with it really happening; I was thinking if I didn't write about it, it would be like it never happened. But alas, my baby is one.


It is amazing how one little person can bring such joy to your life. This little man is such a bright light. His smile is constant (unless you've taken away his goldfish) and infectious. He is loud, courageous, a bit of a dare-devil and very mischievous. His laugh is music. He squeals and screams. And it's high pitched and loud. I'm talking "cover your ears because it hurts" kind of loud... "lots of stares in the grocery store" loud... "are you injuring your child?" loud. Loud. But it's also "try really hard not to laugh because it's actually funny, yet I don't want him to know that" loud. He is loud and I love it. And he snuggles. He growls. He is full of love.


He's only fallen down the stairs once (with a babysitter) but only had a bruised chin to show for it. He has bonked his head, slipped, toppled, tackled, crashed and burned... yet he always ends up with a smile on his face. Yes - he's going to be the kid who jumps off the roof, does flips into the pool, rides his bike with no hands... I can see it now. (And J-man will be chasing after him screaming, "No! You're breaking the rules!!!")


He loves hats, balls, mac n' cheese, bananas, chobani yogurt, outside, dancing, clapping. Adores his bro. Delights is his daddy. Is Mama's little buddy. Is afraid of dogs?! And does not like holding hands...both of which Mama will make him overcome.


He is a trooper. He is pure delight. He tickles my heart and brightens the toughest days. I love my Duke.


And to top it all off - he's cute. Oddly, a lot of these pictures don't capture that adorable smile that's always on his face, but they do give you a little does of our Duke.

Fire hat. 

Pirate hat.

Monster hat.

Adoring my baby.

Bubble pipe.

"I got these out all by myself. Don't you dare take them away."

Daddy snuggles.

Birthday boy! His first move was to dive his face right into the frosting. But then he sat there and poked at it. Finally, I scooped some of the frosting off and he chowed down on the cake. Turns out he is not a frosting boy! So foreign to me!

Getting naked for some finger painting!

After a few minutes of using his hands, he literally stood up and squatted down right on the middle of the paper. Mama's hoping we have a little artist on our hands.

Now what?

Happy Birthday, our sweet Duke. You are oh so very loved.

Helpmate

I was challenged by something I read the other day (once again, from "Prescription for the Doctor's Wife"):

"Do you see yourself as your husband's helpmate, as Scripture teaches? Or do you see it the opposite? Do you think of him as your helpmate when he gets home to help you with the dishes, the kids, the projects around the home? Are there some thoughts and actions you need to change?"

Yikes. Yes... there are some thoughts and actions I need to change! So often, McSweety comes home and I think I "deserve" a break. Ok... he's the one who works a ton, in a stressful job, and he comes home and I think he should serve me?! Oy.

This last month, we faced one of the toughest rotations yet. McSweety was working in the ICU and logged some crazy hours... 70, 80+ hours a week. On top of that, he is such a kind man that he switched a shift with another intern and, therefore, ended up not having a day off for 2 weeks. Yuck. It was tough. I felt like he came home only to walk back out the door hours later. It's a tough thing to not grumble when he informs me that he has to go back to work early the next morning and to not gripe and moan about it. This isn't his choice! I know my husband. I know he'd much rather be home, hanging with me, playing with his boys, sleeping, sitting down to enjoy a cup of coffee. But he works. He busts his behind for us. He is following his dream and pursuing an amazing calling. And I have the joy of supporting him in this! Truly! How blessed am I? Yes - this is hard and crazy, but I am so blessed. I get to do what my heart desires - be a wife and mother! And I get to be the woman that the love of my life comes home to... and yet, there are times he walks through those doors and I think he owes me something! Eww. Selfish. I'm the one who wants to stay home with our boys - so what's with me thinking he should clean up the kitchen, entertain the little dudes, take out the trash, cook a gourmet meal... And here's the thing: he doesn't grumble at me when I ask. He may be thinking "seriously, woman. I just worked 12 hours straight, on my feet, dealing with a hoard of different people, and you want me to do what?" But he doesn't say it. He may request a moment to get settled before I thrust a child into his arms, but then he takes the child without complaint. Serious.

So... I am challenged. Taking care of this house is my thing. Making dinner is my thing. Finding ways to set up our days to grow, challenge, entertain, encourage our boys is my thing (no, it's not all on me to raise them, but the practical, day to day, how to make things work stuff, it is on me). And yet, so often I try to make it his thing when he has just a moment to spare.

I want him to come home and be at peace. I want an organized (not sparkling clean... I have to have the right expectations here) home. I want a "calm" home. I want my husband to feel like he can breathe out when he arrives. I want to have a home that is a salve to his heart. That brings quiet and healing. And this can be! But it means I don't shove expectations at him when he walks through the door.

I can welcome him - meeting him at the door! - with a kiss, a hug, with laughter and giggles from two boys who are so excited to see daddy. And I can let him settle and be calm without expectations. I can let him soak in his family, his boys. I want this for him.

It's so very against the world. This sounds crazy to some. Too domestic. And I would have agreed at a point in my life... "it's not the woman's roll!" But it is. I have desired this and my husband has allowed this to be true in my life. And I have a choice - be self centered or be selfless.

"A woman has a tremendous influence on those in her home. She has a powerful and crucial role. Her choices change lives...either positively or negatively. 'By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures' (Proverbs 24:3-4)."

And so I pray... "God, thank you for the ability to be a wife and a mother! What a joy. Please Lord, help me have perspective and a selfless heart - which is not of me, but of You! Help my desire be to serve and honor my husband, to be his helpmate, to put his needs before mine, to have a home that is built upon Your wisdom and truth!"

I am so grateful for this challenge - to be able to see my "oops" and to give it to the Lord. May McSweety feel peace and love in this home and may it be built on the wisdom of God.

My Yucky Voice

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building other up according to their needs, that is may benefit those who listen." Ephesians 4:29

I lost my voice.

I have not been able to speak above a whisper as of Saturday morning. Sort of annoying. Sort of challenging. I  have not been able to talk a lot, sing, be heard across a room, explain myself quickly, ask for what I want, order coffee at a drive though, speak loudly at my children, sing worship music at church... it is amazing how much I talk - or make noise, really. This has been a challenge...a convicting challenge.

I talk too much. I talk to fill silence. I talk to be heard. The two ways this has challenged me the most are in conversations with others and in speaking with and to my children.

When I talk to others, am I taking time to hear them, or am I just thinking about what I want to say next? Are my words a benefit to them, or are they just noise? Really? Am I saying something worth saying?

I was able to meet with a friend from high school who was in town and was amazed/ashamed of myself. I found myself straining to talk with her with my yucky, sick voice, but mostly rambling and making noise. I found myself wanting other people in the conversation (not my friend, my own mother-how terrible am I?) to stop talking so that I could be heard - so my horrible, raspy voice could be heard. Fortunately, a thought came upon me in the midst of that conversation... a quiet thought that probably turned into a shout that was probably the prompting of the Holy Spirit: "I value that person. That person is of worth to me." Woah. Really. That was not born within my selfish mind. That's some powerful truth. God values us. Each of us. He knows our worth - He died for each of us, after all. And here I am, wanting others to hush up, so I can be heard. Ugh. How ugly I can be!

And then there's my children. I cannot shout across the room, "J! Buddy - stop that. Be nice! Be kind! What did you do?!" "Duke! No! That's a stop!" Instead, I am forced to approach my children. To go to them, to crouch down and whisper in their ear..."Hey love, let's choose kindness instead. I know you're a big boy who is such a good big bro. So let's choose kindness, ok?" "Hey Duke...come here buddy. That's not for you. That will hurt you." And those whispers have probably been louder than any shouting I have done. The choice to walk across the room instead of just talking louder to be heard, to approach my boys, to talk with kindness and quiet love, to choose my words carefully because my voice will only go so far... to speak words that will truly benefit them.

God, I pray for this to stay with me. I pray that I will get beyond myself and see the worth of all people. I pray that I will value my children and approach them with quiet kindness, with love, with intentional words.

I fear I'll forget this. I fear that my voice will return and I will just talk again. I will speak loudly to be heard. I will shout across a room instead of choosing to stop and go to my child, to any person really, to take their hand and speak words that matter. I pray I will remember their worth. I pray I won't forget this.

I desire to use my words to benefit others. I desire to value people, really, the way they are valued by our Savior. I desire to see beyond myself. God, please change my voice - not just in healing it and giving it back to me, but change my voice, that I may be aware and that my words will be words that speak love, truth, kindness, guidance, acceptance...

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building other up according to their needs, that is may benefit those who listen." Ephesians 4:29

Thoughts from the J-man

J-man... oh, how I love this guy.

Yesterday, we were driving home from gymnastics and he randomly asks me, "Mom, where does God live?"
"God lives in heaven, J. He lives there with Jesus. It's awesome - the perfect place."
"Well, where is heaven?"
"We think of heaven as being up in the sky. It's above the clouds."

Silence for a moment.

"Mom, does God have cars?"
"Well...cars are pretty cool things...so sure. There are probably cars in heaven."
"And God has a car?"
"Maybe. That seems pretty cool."

Silence once again.

"Mom. God can't have a car in heaven."
"No?"
"No. He can't have a car. He has an airplane. Cars can't drive in the sky."

Woah. Good point. So practical. Love it.

And then he went on to ask if he could have his costumes with him if we all went to heaven. He was very concerned that he wouldn't have any costumes. I told him he could take them because heaven is a place of happiness and if his costumes were part of him being happy, then they would be there (don't quote me on this or jump into a lecture on the truths of heaven here... he's three.)

He then asked, "But Mom, would I lose them if I dropped them?"

It took me a second to understand... costumes in heaven...in the sky... would they fall through the clouds if he dropped them? Again - good point. So funny.

"No, buddy. You wouldn't lose them. They would just be there and they would be safe. Nothing can fall out of heaven."

That seemed to appease him.

"So, we can all have costumes in heave?"
"Yep."

And then I realized the root of these questions - Halloween. It's been a bit of an obession for him since that big night of candy hoarding. I think he's concerned that he couldn't have Halloween in heaven (oy...a whole other conversation) but really, the issue is the candy.  What he was really asking: will there be candy in heaven. What a funny guy.

Here's the funny man in his Halloween costume. He assured me that he was a nice pirate.

I so appreciate these moments from J-man. He is so smart and funny and creative. I love hearing his thoughts and processing life with him. And I hope to embrace these moments... because I know it won't be long before Mom no longer holds the truth and authority on all things (which will probably be a very good thing in a lot of ways).

I love my J-man. Some days are tough with this guy. He's stubborn and has a red-hot temper.
But I see such strength and power in him - such a big heart. Such compassion. And I pray - daily - sometimes a million times a day, it seems - that God will guide us as we shepard him... to shape his will without breaking his spirit - because he is such fun. He is such a joy. And it's good to stop and remember this as often as possible-because it goes toooooooo fast! So I'm taking time today to pause and just soak in my sweet J-man. I love you, my little buddy.

Loneliness

I think the thing that has surprised me the most in this whole process has been the loneliness. I fully expected busyness, moments (days) of feeling like a single parent, tiredness... but I didn't realize how lonely I would feel at times! I just didn't consider how long days would turn into lonely nights and conversations with little ones would turn into silence at the end of the day. Sure, there are times when I call a friend, a sister-in-law, mom... but other people have lives too! And I think it's not just the nights. It's the day-time when I need my McSweety, but I can't call him. I can't call to chat, to ask about this, to help me decide about that, to tell me what to do about something else. It's all me. And "all me" turns into only me and that's just lonely. So, I make choices, move forward, try this, try that, just decide to do it my way, and we survive. But I happen to be a relational person who likes to do life with my hubby, so it does not come naturally for me to just choose without discussion, ideas, someone to hear my thoughts. And I've just been surprised at how that has turned into loneliness.


I know I am not alone in this. Other wives have echoed this same idea. This challenge. And I am not alone.


And thankfully, I'm reminder that, really, I am not alone. Because I have a God who loves me too much to leave me, to abandon me, to let me be lonely. Yet, at times - I forget how faithful He is. I forget that He's never left me before. He's always here. 


I just read this verse in a book I'm reading as part of a Bible study with other medical wives - Prescription for the Doctor's Wife. So good. But this verse is something I've never caught before: "He who watches over you will not slumber." Psalm 121:3 He doesn't fall asleep on His watch. He never rests. He is always present. So, when I'm lying in bed, with that empty space next to me (which hasn't happened in a few weeks, yay!) there's peace in knowing that God isn't sleeping - He's watching over me. He is with me.


And in this book I've been challenge to remember my history with God. He has never left me all alone. He is with me. And so my hope, my prayer, is that we can remember our history with God. I pray for remembrance of His faithfulness. To not forget that He has not failed me. Ever. And He never will. 

Our Neighbor

We have the best neighbor. 


I had no idea how wonderful it could be to have a great neighbor. And this neighbor is a gift and an answer to prayer - literally (thanks, Kel!). After we had been in our house for three days, there was a quiet knock at the door. I answered it to find a sweet little girl and her mom holding a plate of cookies for us: "We baked these for you and just wanted to come say 'hi'!" And, lo a behold, this sweet little girl just happened to be three years old. A few weeks passed and we saw them outside and talked about getting together to play. And so it began...


Play Dates. Evenings in the cul-de-sac. Laughing. Shared stories. Conversation with an adult! A shared meal. Babysitting (as in swapping hours!!!) More laughing. Hugs. Squeals of delight. Music to my ears.


Pure joy.


It is such a sweet thing to see your child love a friend. To hear them laugh and yell and to see them run, tumble, giggle, ride, draw, wrestle, roll, hug... to be a friend. 


My heart was starting to ache for my J-man. For his little friends so far away. I so badly wanted to hear that sweet laughter of friendship.


And in moments of forgetting that we're going to be ok, that we will find a place here, and that God is going to see us through, the doorbell rings again... and there she is. Three years old and beaming: "Can J come out to play?"


And again, He sustains. 


"Yes, sweet one. We can all come out to play. A thousand times, yes."

Fall in Nashville - A Breathtaking Surprise!

I have been moved to tears - literally! - by the breathtaking beauty of the fall here in Nashville! It is gorgeous in a way that has been fully unexpected. I am a mountain girl! I find the high rocky peaks to be astounding, so I have been shocked at how very gorgeous I have found the fall colors. I know that these pictures will not do it justice, but I just had to try.

I am grateful for this beauty. There is a peace and tranquility to it. There is a stillness. It is evidence - as if it were needed - of the creative and beautiful God who made this place for our enjoyment. How amazing. And isn't it such wonderful evidence of His very existence?!

"For since the creation of the world God's invisible qualities--his eternal power and divine nature--have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse."  Romans 1:20

And I'm so grateful for the sweet afternoon that I got to spend with my boys last Sunday! There is an awesome park near our house with loads of walking and hiking trails. We just strolled (and ran when J-man shouted, "Run faster! Mommy, you can run faster than Daddy!" - which was quickly followed by, "Daddy, you're the fastest!"). It was such a delight to just enjoy some time with my McSweety and to see the smiles on the faces of my little dudes. So sweet.

May you enjoy the beauty that surrounds you, taking time to praise Him for His creativity!

Running on Empty...Full of His Grace

Yesterday, I was seriously shouting for joy because of an amazing occurrence: the boys napped at the same time. It was a happy accident and I was super excited. And what did I do with my time? Read? Sit? Enjoy a cup of tea? A nap? Nope. I CLEANED!!! This is a crazy thing because 1. I don't like cleaning 2. I was actually excited to clean 3. I was so excited that I cleaned 3 bathrooms, the kitchen, swept, mopped and did some laundry in the hour that was gifted to me. Isn't it amazing what we can do with our time when we just focus and commit?! And then I took a deep breath, because the mess that I had been wading through was gone and things were sparkly. Yay. I was so grateful for this little window of opportunity!

Fast forward about 6 hours, and this was my reality: 10:30 - lay down finally and get super cozy, 10:45 - J-man starts "crying". He has think fake cry that he does sometimes - it's like he wakes up confused, hot, snotty, who knows and his reaction? Screaming tears. So frustrating. I'm talking screaming in mama's face as she's trying to help. Not cool. Finally, calms down only to say, "my leg is itchy." Oh my. Prayers are lifted for calm. And then he's snuggled and happy and lathered with lotion to stop the itchy. And I'm back in bed. 11:45 - J-man starts "crying". Same story. Only this times it's a booger and to J, booger=tragedy. Prayers are lifted for control. Resettled. Back in bed. 1:20 - J-man starts "crying". This time. Literally, after he clams down: "J, why are you crying?" "I don't know." Praying for clam, control and to keep from screaming and storming out of his room, like a 3 year old. Oy. Finally - he sleeps.

3:00 - "The Duke" wakes up crying. Peed through that stinkin' diaper again. Had to use a size 3 because we ran out of 4's. (Yes...my almost 11 month old is wearing a size 4 night time diaper... the same size J was wearing when he was potty-training.) The Duke then thinks it's time to play. And I laugh because he's so cute. But then I realize he seriously thinks it's time to play. So we rock and sing and I attempt to have him snuggle with a fake snuggly - his "Grr-Baby" is soaked with urine. He drops the fakey and stares up at me-seriously, Mama? And so we rock and sing and finally I just have to lay him down. Then he cries. I clean things up in the kitchen while he cries. I check on him. He cries. I fold laundry. I check on him. He cries. I fold more laundry. I think, if he keeps this up I'll be able to tell McSweety "good morning". 4:30... McSweety stumbles out of our bedroom: "What's going on?" (Yes, he slept through all of this. I hoped he had - he's the one who has to keep patients alive on this ICU rotation. I just have to keep our sons alive.) 4:45 - back in bed for two hours of undisturbed sleep. 6:45 - up and at 'em.

So, I was running on empty from the moment I awoke. I prayed my way through this day. We amazingly had breakfast, danced to "I've Been Workin' On the Railroad" three times, met friends at the library for story time (Nashville Library = amazing), took a trip to Costco, had naps...AT THE SAME TIME AGAIN!!! Happy accident. This time I did my Bible study...I needed to be sustained. We played with our neighbor, I made dinner for the boys & I - which we ate at the table, at the same time - cleaned up the kitchen, picked up the play area and made it upstairs  in time to clean up rooms before getting ready for bed... and then, McSweety came home in time to help with bedtime. Hooray. And there were no tears ALL DAY. Now that is some serious Grace. And I am grateful. Only through His Grace did we conquer this day. Thank you, God! Thank for you for giving me just what you promise: "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Thank you, Lord, for your grace. Otherwise, we would not have survived this day.

And now...Here's to sleep.

And so it begins...

I am blogging. This is not just an obvious statement of my actions. This is a commitment. I am blogging. I am going to do this. It's been on my mind for a while. Yes, we have the family blog, but something about it feels stifiling. Like it's suppose to just be pretty and perfect. Like I can't really just type away and share the real stuff. Like it's the stuff of happy moments, pretty pictures and perfect joy. But come on, that's not real. We are not pretty and perfect people - at least not all the time! And in this time of change, I'd like a place to just share about this journey...about God's work in our lives... about trusting Him, loving Him, knowing Him. McSweety & I have said from the beginning of this whole process that our desire is to survive and thrive. So many people have shared of struggles, hardships, ugliness, divorce... encouraging, right? But we have a God that is bigger than all of that. We have a Savior. We have a Rock. And we are His.

I remember a woman coming up to me as we were in the midst of our move - a doctor's wife. She came up and embraced me... how sweet... and then said to me... "I'm sorry. This is going to be such a hard time in your life." Not sweet. At all. In fact, somewhat discouraging. But, my immediate thought: God is on our side. He is with us in this. He will sustain.

And one last thing... I have a tendency to believe, at times, that I have nothing to say. Or at least nothing worth saying (let's be honest, I have a lot to say, but does what I say matter, does it benefit those who listen?) And maybe no one will listen/read. Maybe this will just be a place for me to come and share...because, at the moment, I have no dear friends to call up and say, meet with me, linger with me, listen to my life, face to face...which I pray will come... but I believe I have dear friends who will meet me right here, who are a phone call away, who would be here in a moments notice if I really needed them. Thank you, friends...since we're miles apart, maybe you'll meet me here, linger with me, be a part of this journey. Maybe something I will say will be worth reading. Maybe not. I will doubt the worth of the time spent here. I will doubt that anyone really cares. But I will come and share. Because I need to share, I think, in order to survive this...in order to thrive.